This blog has often featured articles about the joy of lifelong learning. Indeed, scientific research is now showing that embracing learning and our ability to change our minds in the face of new information is connected to wellbeing and longevity. There are times, however, when we must “unlearn” the things that no longer serve us. This is no easy task. Letting go of ideas and belief systems that got us to where we are today is difficult, but ultimately necessary for our growth as professionals and as humans in general. Hortense le Gentil has published a new article in Chief Executive Magazine with some insights on how to heighten your human potential as a leader.
Transitioning from a position in which technical skills were crucial, to a position of leadership, which requires the ability to inspire others is a daunting task. In her new article, le Gentil lays out three steps to reconnecting with the emotionally intelligent side of oneself, to become what she terms a “human leader.”
First, identify the mind traps in the way. These “mind traps” are simply old ways of thinking that become obstacles in a new role. The expertise that allows us to rise in the ranks and succeed in business will usually be ineffectual when it comes to leading others. Letting go of what we see as part of our roles or identities can be scary, so le Gentil recommends taking it slowly, which brings up her second step, changing the mind.
Second, operate a mind shift. Ask three fundamental questions each time an assumption pops up: Is it true?, Is it relevant?, and Is it still helpful today? Sometimes there will be easy and simple answers to these questions, sometimes not. Spend some real time on self reflection; journal, meditate, take a nature walk alone, get a coach or join a leadership peer group like Vistage! Shameless plugs aside, the importance of this step cannot be overstated.
Third, embrace a mind-build. Once the old ideals and expectations are dismantled, we can begin to build new ones that are more in line with the reality of being a leader. How do we want to be remembered, perceived, etc.? Le Gentil recommends the powerful exercise of writing one’s own eulogy to really get at the heart of how we wish to be seen. This is not a one-and-done deal, either. Connecting with the inner self and what makes us human is something that should be done every day, even for as little as 10 minutes.
Le Gentil has helped thousands of leaders grow into their roles through her coaching and through her writing. Do yourself a favor and check out her full article here, or check out her book, The Unlocked Leader here, and share them both with the other leaders in your life.